FEATURED: 5 Things This New Gay Dad Was Not Prepared For

We welcomed our gorgeous, bright-eyed daughter six weeks ago. We had driven to Massachusetts a week before the due date to get ahead of an impending blizzard, and to wait. On a Saturday night five days later, our surrogate mother — a remarkable and generous relative — told us that the baby would come in ...

The Build Up
 

Recently, I wrote about waiting. Like, long term waiting, over the course of my life, for the moment when I can stop waiting and start feeling like I’m doing. And yes, it certainly feels like we’ve started doing! In fact, we’re rather exhausted. But now we find ourselves in a different kind of waiting, and ...

Waiting for It
 

There are days when my thoughts catch me off guard on the subway on the way to work, and I am suddenly overwhelmed by sadness and anger that my grandmother and my cousin will be missing my wedding. It’s hard to use the term ‘matriarch’ for Noni, when my memories of her are of swimming ...

Committing
 

Josh made a joke once, that he was going to sign a contract with everyone he knew. At the time, he was navigating the creation of a known-donor contract with a childhood friend and her wife; signing a purchase agreement for a plot of land with me; and finalizing a mortgage with his colleague from ...

LESSON TWO
 

I have a tendency to do everything twice. Not in an OCD two-times two-times kind of way. But in a fail-to-get-it-right-the-first-time kind of way. I had to come out twice. Go to college twice. Break up with guys twice. Get engaged twice. Looking back, it’s been easy to assume I’m just slow to catch on. ...

Halfway through the start

I found myself stag at the end of a long workday tonight. After months of missing invitations, J finally accepted a date with an old friend who manages the Brooklyn Academy of Music, the borough’s oldest theater venue (“I don’t know what it’s called, but it stars that woman? You know her. I forget what ...