FEATURED: To My Daughter on Her 18th Birthday

Eighteen years ago you came into my life unexpectedly. An opportunity out of the blue. I wasn’t trying to be a father, but then I heard about you – a baby girl in need of a home. It was truly one of those “meant to be” moments. You and I were in the right place ...

Christmas Wishes for My Children

Always strive to see the good in the world. It’s easy to read the headlines of the day and see only darkness. There is hatred, intolerance, corruption and destruction all around us. But there is also love, acceptance, honesty and creation. The good outweighs the bad in big and little ways every day. Neighbors offer ...

Just Another Night
 

“OMG, tomorrow is pajama day at school! I’m going to wear my new pajama set; it’s going to be so cool!” Our 17 year old daughter tells us this over dinner. I have to quietly get up and excuse myself. It’s just that 30 minutes earlier, I was on the kitchen floor physically restraining her ...

When “My Child and I” Becomes “Our Chil...

I was a single parent during my daughter’s preschool years from ages 3 to 5. It was a period of transition for us. We moved from the west coast to the Midwest, contracted to build our first house and learned to live with the new dynamic of single dad and his little girl. I can remember tucking her in, ...

Raising Kids Who Care 
 

I firmly believe that many of the world’s problems could be solved if more people cared enough to get involved and do something. Yes, we have differences of opinion on how to deal with those problems or even what they are, but if more people cared and paid attention, then the world would be a ...

Two Dads and One Day
 

Mother’s Day is an interesting time in our home of two dads and two adopted teens. Our children came to us in different ways and at different ages. Our 17-year-old daughter came through a voluntary open adoption when she was three weeks old. Our 14-year-old son came through a foster-to-adopt placement at 12. They have ...

Parenting Through The Darkness

My adopted daughter came into my life when she was three weeks old. Before that, she was in a safe environment with her mother and aunt. She has always had a parent at home when she wakes up in the morning, comes home from school in the afternoon and goes to bed at night. She ...

On Alan Turing, Me and My Son

Recently, on a cold and rainy day in Austin, Texas, my husband and I went with a friend to see the movie The Imitation Game. The film is about Alan Turing, a brilliant mathematician who, among other things, helped crack the code created by the Nazi’s Enigma machine during World War II. It’s estimated that this great feat shortened the ...