FEATURED: From My 3 Sons to 3 Sons of My Own

Thanksgiving – it’s my family’s favorite holiday. No wonder. It’s centered on an abundance of delicious food and a warm dose of tradition. Over the years my children and I have enjoyed playing board games for hours. We’ve watched old television shows that put us in the mood, that remind us of life’s most important ...

The Bond We Share With Rosie

Adoption is a beautiful thing. It celebrates life – but wait. Before we celebrate a new beginning And minimize the past, Take a moment to think. Adoption results from a deeply personal loss – a birthmother or a birth family. Even when gay fathers rescue children from abuse and neglect, Even in the case of ...

We Can Never Buy Their Love

No doubt, our kids like things – the expensive kind in many cases. After all, they’re bombarded with advertising messages from morning to night. The latest model must be better, even though the older one works just fine. So unless your family lives in the woods – without electricity or wireless service, the heavy dose ...

Hayley Mills, We Love You

Obviously, most of today’s child stars–and their parents–didn’t read the memo. “Act like Hayley, both on stage and off.” Yes, Hayley Mills. She’s the 1960’s Disney child star who rose to fame in Pollyanna, The Parent Trap, Summer Magic, Moon Spinners and That Darn Cat – five films that my children have watched over and ...

My Special Son Andrew
 

That was last year. This year let’s finish the job. Let’s put him on the cover of Runner’s World magazine and showcase our families. After reading his story, you’ll see why. From the day I met Andrew at age five, he liked to walk in front. He wanted to lead. Meanwhile, my two younger sons ...

Don’t Tolerate This Gay Dad: Embrace Me

We’ve met them: people who tolerate but don’t necessarily embrace us as gay fathers. These folks usually aren’t recognizable. They seem to be genuine allies as compared to our adversaries on the far right. Over time, however, we hear a comment — and then another. Nothing hateful but their words are less than encouraging or affirming. That’s when ...

Civil Rights: Beyond the Rainbow Flag

Discrimination. The word is ugly. Many gay fathers probably have been on the receiving end at some point in our lives. Even with vigilant efforts, discrimination still exists. Some is blatant – passed down from generation to generation. More is subtle – sometimes cloaked under the guise of religious freedom. It can affect our families ...

Once Foster Kids, Now My Sons

I called it the summer of love. My partner’s three-year-old nephew needed someone to care for him while his mother dealt with a difficult pregnancy out of state. “Yes,” I said immediately. That four-month taste of fatherhood left me hungry. Although my relationship ended, my hunger grew. I ached to be a father, not a ...